I have all the reason to be happy with how this week went:
I’m at home with my loved ones, am slowly working through the pile of to-do’s, and the sun is caressing Berlin with its first rays of spring. How could I not be happy about all that?
In fact, it’s all going uphill right now, my mood, my inspiration to write more that is close to my heart, everything. One of the recent posts I really loved was the one with the outtakes from the past couple of months.
I hope it made you laugh!
My good mood i’s probably a lot to do with the great spring weather, but also with being home and my decision to skip Fashion Week in Paris. From what I hear it’s pouring over there, so I’d rather enjoy the sun here :)
I’m going to spend some time in Berlin now, my favorite city of all. I’m ready to enjoy spring.
For my blog this means I finally have the time to post some texts I wrote and pics I prepared for you. Among the posts I’ve been thinking about for a while is one about a subject that’s really close to my heart, and which really preoccupied me. I’m also really looking forward to shooting some spring outfits. Let’s hope the weather stays as it is. I need these vibes for my blog and to get motivated to do some proper spring cleaning at home.
I’m really bursting with energy right now, I wish the days had more hours, more time to use productively!
I attended a fashion event the other day, where loads of women brought their babies and toddlers. SO MANY babies and toddlers! It’s not much of a surprise in a way, quite a few fashion bloggers gave birth recently, so I guess it makes sense that there’s a bit of a baby-shower vibe in the air. All good.
The only thing that really gets on my nerves is that I’m permanently being asked about my own situation. Ever since I mentioned on Snapchat that I stopped taking the pill and am (slowly) starting to think about babies, it’s like everyone expects something to happen straight away. I really wanted to approach the whole subject without pressure, but now the pressure comes from the outside, and it annoys me a little. Makes me wanna scream ‘Stop asking, you’ll hear it soon enough when I have news’ ^^
Ok, the truth is that I’m a bit sensitive because I’d actually love to be pregnant already. But it’s not that easy with my lifestyle. I only spend a few days at home every month, and those are often not the right ones. You know, the wish alone is not enough to get pregnant, especially, as I said, with my current lifestyle: always on the move, always exhausted. That’s the price of success, I guess. March is already looking difficult. But you know what? It’s not that big a deal, I’m still young after all!
And if everyone stops asking then chances are that the surprise will be all the more beautiful one day.
.An article published in Iconist, in which the author complains about too much ‘vagina-content’ really annoyed me.
Here’s a little excerpt: ‘In her videos of her Instagram story she details her bladder infection. Sometimes even the most self-reflective Instagram-consumer forgets that the people behind the perfectly composed images and videos grapple with completely average problems. So, a little reminder can’t hurt. But does it reallyhave to be the urethra? Wouldn’t a snapshot of a messy closet have done the job as well?’ It goes on like this, apparently the author felt the need to show how upset she is that people talk about bladder infections, bikini areas and other small and bigger issues that are, frankly, completely normal.
People like the author reinforce body-related taboos and shame. Last time I checked we lived in 2017, and we all understand that everybody needs to go to the toilet, and there’s nothing weird or disgusting about it. In response to the article I will say, well, there really is no better way to lift these silly taboos than talking about these issues openly and publicly.
I mean that’s exactly the reason why Refinery29 introduced the vagina week: to break any remaining taboos related to a body part that’s a natural part of us. Come on, no one should feel shame for having a vagina, and we should all be able to speak openly about our problems. I really like the fact that a fashion blogger talks about her issues in Instagram, a place that’s completely inundated with hyper-conform content. Doing something that breaks up this superficial surface is exactly what is needed, wouldn’t you agree?
Another example: If I wouldn’t have spoken openly about my period pain I’d probably still feel like there’s something quite right with me, the way it hurts sometimes. Every period is different, but we need to open up to someone to really understand that.
Either way, I really thought the article was way off, but the author was so out of line (referring to regular female voices as phone-sex voices, etc.) that I guess she probably has all kinds of other issues and inhibitions.