How to achieve your goals in 3 steps and not giving up | outfit: Two piece from Max & Co by Olivia Palermo, open boots from 3.1 Phillip Lim | style: stripes, dandy, business, tomboy, Statement shirt

two piece: Max&Co
shirt: Dorothee Schumacher x Glamour
shoes: 3.1 Phillip Lim
bag: Coccinelle
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photos: Theresa Kaindl

I feel like I spent every last bit of energy in my body.
There’s nothing left, I am completely empty. My batteries are drained.
My limbs are numb, my heart has bled dry.
I am a robot on autopilot.

When was the last time I had a good night’s sleep?
When was the last time I enjoyed an afternoon off?
When was the last time I had time for anything?

It feels like it has been an eternity.. and it has.
 
The last months were unexpectedly tough. I was constantly on the road and filled my agenda with more than would have been good for me. I barely slept, experienced a lot, had plenty of stress, not just professionally, also in my spare time.
 
I wanted to be someone who savors every second of living – and I overdid it.
A sense of balance, a moment to rest – these things are important to charge one’s energy reservoir before you can give it your all again. But I have pushed the envelope with a half charged battery. I went on an on, always in danger of switching off at any moment.
I should have saved some energy and deleted a bunch of apps instead.


But you know what? I made it through in one piece.
I fought, expanded my boundaries and have reached my goal.
I’m exhausted, but I’m still standing.
 
You know, our bodies are really much more resilient than we think, and it unleashes its potential when faced with challenges, just like our character is shaped especially in tough times.
Don’t lose sight of your health, but be brave and test your boundaries.
You are able to run farther than your eyes can see, you can function with less sleep than you ever dreamed, you can find the strength to keep going in times of hunger.
 
The thing is, it’s usually not up to us when times get really intense. It just happens, and often we only notice that we’re already right in the middle of one of these periods when the train has picked up so much speed that we can no longer jump off.
 
So, what to do when ‘giving in’ is not an option?
How do you keep going?

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3 tips on how to keep going when you’d like to throw it in:

How to achieve your goals in 3 steps and not giving up | outfit: Two piece from Max & Co by Olivia Palermo, open boots from 3.1 Phillip Lim | style: stripes, dandy, business, tomboy, Statement shirt

How to achieve your goals in 3 steps and not giving up | outfit: Two piece from Max & Co by Olivia Palermo, open boots from 3.1 Phillip Lim | style: stripes, dandy, business, tomboy, Statement shirt

Look Ahead
Sometimes the thought of tomorrow, the knowledge that you won’t be in the same spiral forever, is all that keeps me getting out of bed in the morning.
 
I visualize the future, and cling on to rays of hope emanating from days to come. Sure, my job is not terrible, far from it, but it comes with its own challenges. I never have any time off, no weekends. I work non-stop, every single day, sometimes for months on end, and it sometimes feels like it brings me to the brink of madness. Yes, that happens even if you really love your job. Sometimes I just don’t feel like being Masha the blogger. Sometimes I’d rather be Masha, the girl who loves going to the movies, rearranging the flat and meeting friends for a cup of coffee.
 
Just like most people work and toil towards the next vacation, I often long for the next blissful moment in peace and quiet at home, alone with my cats. This thought is sometimes all that keeps me going.

How to achieve your goals in 3 steps and not giving up | outfit: Two piece from Max & Co by Olivia Palermo, open boots from 3.1 Phillip Lim | style: stripes, dandy, business, tomboy, Statement shirt

How to achieve your goals in 3 steps and not giving up | outfit: Two piece from Max & Co by Olivia Palermo, open boots from 3.1 Phillip Lim | style: stripes, dandy, business, tomboy, Statement shirt

How to achieve your goals in 3 steps and not giving up | outfit: Two piece from Max & Co by Olivia Palermo, open boots from 3.1 Phillip Lim | style: stripes, dandy, business, tomboy, Statement shirt

There is a Russian proverb that roughly translates as follows: ‘the eyes worry, the hands work’. I tell myself that quite frequently, it’s almost like a mantra that helps me to see straight in periods when I feel I’m overwhelmed by work. The thought of all the things I have to do can be utterly paralyzing. All I want to do then is to throw it all in. But this little Russian proverb reminds me that it’s best to not think to much and to get to work. I feel quite sorry for myself sometimes, but this little mantra usually helps me to get myself together quickly and to start somewhere.
Beginning is often the most difficult part, after all.
 
By the way, whenever my mom asks me how I think I’ll be able to manage all I have planned, I tell her ‘molcha’, which roughly translates as ‘I shut up, do my thing and don’t complain’.
That’s my second piece of advice: head down and charge!

How to achieve your goals in 3 steps and not giving up | outfit: Two piece from Max & Co by Olivia Palermo, open boots from 3.1 Phillip Lim | style: stripes, dandy, business, tomboy, Statement shirt

How to achieve your goals in 3 steps and not giving up | outfit: Two piece from Max & Co by Olivia Palermo, open boots from 3.1 Phillip Lim | style: stripes, dandy, business, tomboy, Statement shirt

You can do it. All of it.
How often did I hear I can’t do this and I can’t do that. If I’d have listened to everyone who knew everything I can’t do, all those people that let me know I’m not good enough, I wouldn’t be anywhere close to where I am today.
 
We should never back down, and we shouldn’t let anyone tell us what we can and can’t do. And we should really tell ourselves much more often ‘I can do this’. Because YOU CAN DO IT.
The most important thing is to set one foot in front of the other. Sometimes we will make big leaps, sometimes it will feel like we’re treading on the spot, but if we keep moving we get ahead one way or the other. Everything is better than stasis, and few things are worse than not doing something we’d like to do out of fear of taking the next step. Just start walking in a direction, you’ll find your way.
 
And if you need to take a break along the route, that’s perfectly fine. But don’t forget to walk on once your batteries are charged again. One step after the other, in your own tempo.

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.Thailand | Chiang Mai

I’d rather be completely exhausted from the hard times that breed success, than well rested from achieving nothing.

Can someone pinch me please? What kind of week was this?
I remember clearly how I got on the plane exactly one wee ago, looking forward to dive into Fashion Week in London. And now here I am, on the plane, back home. Back from Thailand. Berlin – London – Berlin – Thailand, all in 7 days. I flew to Thailand for an international blogger campaign for Pandora, met some amazing people (and bloggers!) there and had one of my best hotel experiences ever. But more on that soon.
 
This week was insane but not only because of all the traveling. I had so much work, too. I’m not sure if I ever had so little sleep and such a full schedule as in the last couple of days. I’m pretty happy to spend my jet-lagged Sunday at home now. You know, just lying around, cuddling, watching series. I have been looking forward to this moment for so long.
 
Next week I’m back to my regular daily life.
It feels like ages since I had a bit of home and a bit of boredom in my life, and I’m really looking forward to it so much.
It’s a bit like having guests: on the one hand you’re super happy that they’re there, but when they stay a bit longer than expected it’s also a nice moment when you can finally crack on with your regular routine.
 
It’s exactly like that for me: Traveling and projects are fantastic, and I had the best time, but after two months of non-stop stress I’m just plain happy to be in Berlin for a while without Fashion Week, Berlinale and all the others. A little break from traveling will be conducive to my inner balance, which should also be good for the blog. As a matter of fact, I have some awesome stuff coming up on the blog. Stay tuned to see what’s going to happen now that I get to invest a bit more time in the blog again.

Thailand, Chiang Mai

London Fashion Week

Thoughts:
I had a very interesting chat with two muslimas this week, who are also bloggers. At first sight, both have a lot in common. Both were born in the USA, have one parent who was not originally muslim, and both live their faith and wear headscarfs.
 
That said, the two had very different characters and quite distinct approaches to their traditions: one lives in New York, the other in Dubai. While both cities are extremely touristy and thus also cosmopolitan, they are as different as the two bloggers I met. It is very interesting to see a city in that context.
 
Maria Alia, the girl from new York, has a pretty laid back style. She likes to wear blouses with bustiers on top, culottes and open shoes. She does not dress loosely in any sense of the word, but she also does not hide herself at all. That’s even reflected in the way she wears her Hijab, which she drapes around her head like an artful, long braid that covers her face. It was fascinating for me to see how Maria interprets current trends in her personal style. Without the headscarf I would not have noticed any difference at all to a non-muslim blogger.
Saufeeya, on the other hand, interprets fashion in a more traditional sense. She prefers long, wide clothes and wears her headscarf very differently than Maria. She often covers her neck and is not a huge fan of patterns.

Both girls were really distinct individuals, and both were cosmopolitan and open to the world. Meeting them provided me with an opportunity to sharpen my eye for the many manifestations of in the fashion in muslim culture. In fact, I felt a bit ashamed to realize how I had lumped it all together until now.
 
It took a trip to Thailand for me to see how many different ways there are to live as a muslima, and it also showed me once again how much my opinions are sometimes influenced by our media, where the narrative revolves around one narrow stereotype of women with headscarfs. The hijab is stigmatized as sign of oppression in much of the western world. Headscarfs signal an opposition to emancipation, we are being told.
 
But I came to understand that they can also express the simple desire to belong. And nothing is more natural than that. I, for my part, was glad to be reminded of how many different ways there are to live one’s religion, and how casual some girls are about their headscarfs.
 
And the best thing is: I didn’t have a single friend who wears a headscarf – now I have two :)

jacket: Selected Femme
pants: Max&Co
shoes: Coliac
bag: Kenzo
 
photos: The Styleograph

Watched:War Dogs.
Finally a good and critical movie with an important message. I liked the beginning better than the end, especially the bits that provide an insight in how weapon deals work. Seriously people, watch it! :)

Feedback:
Thank you so much for the amazing comments to my last weekly update!
I have to admit I was really moody when I wrote the post, but your encouraging and cheerful comments helped so much! I got SO much great advice as well. I still haven’t even published all comments (there are so many and I need to go through all of them individually), but once I’m back I’m going to take care of it straight away.
 
I have already accepted the diagnosis and am a bit more relaxed about it all. I guess it’s a challenge which I will start to face once I’m really back in Germany. I am determined to change my diet. Crazy how much of a reaction my post caused. I am so thankful to all of you. You really are the best!

Matchalatte:
Kommt heute noch….

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

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You know what? It’s been quite a while since I last posted some…
 
..Random Facts!
 
Tome to do something about it!
I remember a time when it felt like I’m posting random facts pretty much every week, but more recently I kind of lost sight of this segment. Well, I found myself thinking about it again, and since I had some time on my hand on the plane I decided to not waste any time. Without further ado, here are a bunch of random facts for you:

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

1. When I’m nervous I start fiddling around with my nails.

Even though I (almost) completely kicked the annoying habit of chewing on my nails, I still haven’t managed to stop playing around with them, usually until one tears. One of my main vices is nibbling on the nail polish. I really have no explanation for it other than it somehow gives me a weird sense of satisfaction, especially in exhausting or boring situations. I’m glad I’m not chewing on them anymore, but I’m not sure if I’ll ever be able to kick the habit of scraping and scratching them. Sadly, my nails really show it. 



Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

I need my home to be tidy.

I’m somehow super tidy and messy at the same time. I have no problem with leaving my plate on the table after breakfast or dinner, and am not too bothered with clothes lying around for a little while, but I have to tidy up my place at least once a day. I need a sense of order at home. I really don’t like a mess, and having everything in it’s place at home makes me feel like I have my stuff together. When it’s messy I get really tense and get overwhelmed by the feeling that I’m losing control of my life – which in those moments is often not too far from the truth. Whenever I come back from a Fashion Week stint I go straight to cleaning before I have the headspace to move on with other things.



Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

I can’t sleep on my back.
I can sleep when it’s super noisy, and my slumber is not affected by light. I sleep well even in emotionally stressful periods, no problem. But I can’t sleep in the wrong position. I am completely incapable of sleeping on my back or – much worse – sitting up. I admire people who can, like some friends of mine who I saw dozing off in planes before we even took off. You’d think I got used to sleeping wherever I can, with all the traveling I’m doing, but sadly that’s not the case. There’s only one position for me: on my stomach, or in rare cases on the side. It’s SUCH a pain in the neck!

Blazer | Iris & Ink
Sweater | Revolve
Shoes | OXS
Bag | Lili Radu
Pants | Zara
Bracelet | Saint Laurent

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

I love alien documentaries.

Talking about going to bed: my favorite thing to watch before going to sleep are alien documentaries on N24 (a German news and info channel). I love how these shows hover comfortably between fact and fiction. It’s a bit like having someone read a fairy tale to you, isn’t it?



Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

I don’t like to talk about my job

Don’t get me wrong – I LOVE my job. I just don’t enjoy talking about it very much. Conversations often start with the question what I’m doing professionally, especially in contexts where I don’t seem to blend in, at least on first sight, at certain events, say, or while traveling. And when I reply I am a fashion blogger, I often look into blank faces. Understandably, people get curious and want to know more about what exactly I am doing. But my job is such an integral part of my life that I am sometimes just glad to not have to talk about it. You know, sometimes I wanna do other stuff too. Moreover, I noticed that in such situations I often get the feeling of ‘not belonging’, especially when I am reduced to my looks or my age. No one likes to be categorized.
 
There are also situations where it can be uncomfortable to talk about my work because I am aware that it can easily come across as bragging. Of course it sounds impressive when I talk about some clients I worked with or some destinations I travelled to. The aspect of all that hard work that goes into it is often lost, which can make it quite tricky to have an eye-to-eye conversation. But I guess it’s not that unusual.
 
I mean, who really likes to talk about their job?

Photos: Theresa Kaindl

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

I hold grudges

Another bad trait I guess. Having said that, it’s one that protected me from repeating mistakes more than once. I have certain boundaries that I won’t have anone cross, and if they do I hold terrible grudges to the point that I am capable of ending a friendship on the spot, even if it was a long and intense one. Some things I just cannot tolerate, for example divulging intimate secrets or venting frustration or anger publicly without discussing it with me privately first.
 
I won’t tolerate backstabbing either, nor do I have much patience for people that take friendships for granted. Generally speaking, my tolerance limit is very high though, I don’t mind it much if someone forgets a date or is unreliable. I also don’t have a problem if anyone prioritizes themselves, but I just can’t accept a breach of trust. In such cases I can be really hard, even if the person expresses regret I can find it very difficult to forgive. You know, in those situations I can’t shake the suspicion that what happened once will happen twice, and I don’t want to set myself up for disappointments if I can avoid it. Sometimes that’s that, and that’s all there is to it.



Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

I’m not a touchy-feely person.

This is another one where I’m a bit ambiguous. On the one hand I really like certain kinds of physical closeness like sex or massages, but most of the time I’m not really up for physical contact. I think I’m a bit like a cat: while I love being caressed and pampered (I’d purr if I could), but I really have to be in the mood.
 
I’m not a huge fan of embraces, and I also don’t really like cuddling all that much. Basically, I’m not huge on expressing emotions through physical contact, but I’m totally cool with everything that falls under physical needs. I guess it takes me a while to really build emotional connections, and to really let someone into my heart. I’m not that big a fan of superficial niceties in my private life either, which is often misinterpreted as arrogance, especially in group situations.
 
In the past couple of years I gradually learned to handle it a bit better, to suppress my natural instincts, so to speak. In the fashion industry you simply have to be ok with superficialities. Still, there’s quite a significant difference between my professional self, the girl who can wear a smile whenever she needs to, and the real Masha, who sometimes needs a couple of meetings and real, deep conversations before opening up. I am a cat. 



Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

I have trouble remembering names, faces and birthdays.
This is a really embarassing one, and as far as personal weaknesses goes it’s a real pain in the ass. I frequently end up in uncomfortable situations because of it. I just can’t remember people very well, and so far I haven’t found a way to get better at it. Of course it also depends on whether I have an emotional connection with the person, even if it’s a lose one. You know, sometimes a cup of coffee together can be enough, or even a superficial chat at the airport, but more than once I didn’t remember someone even though I already had dinner with them at some point. Sometimes people have to introduce themselves several times (and vice versa) before I start to remember their faces.
 
What can I say, it’s really not great, and I’m aware that it can be quite hurtful. It is what it is though. I meet new people pretty much every day, and somehow my filter has become too permeable. I will say, though, that I am doing my best and have learned to deal with my weakness. I cover up when necessary and give my very best to meet people consciously. It really comes from a point of respect as well, I believe everyone has the right to be remembered!



Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

Meine Lieblingssorte ist grüner Apfel.
Immer.
Egal ob bei Äpfeln, Süßigkeiten oder Säften: diese perfekte Mischung aus süß und sauer – ich LIEBE es.

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

Masha Sedgwick, Random Facts, Persönliches, Outfit, Fashion, Berlin, Germany, Blogger

I am able to say I’m sorry
After spilling the bean on some of my less flattering character traits, let’s talk about a good one. Nobody is perfect, least of all me, and I am fully aware of that. I can be moody, say something mean from time to time, or I can be plain wrong about something, but when I realise that I messed up I apologize. We all make mistakes, but I believe it’s really important to get an understanding of what went wrong, and to offer a sincere apology to the person I may have wronged. It’s just basic respect and appreciation, and those, if you ask me, are central to living a reasonable life.
 
Conversely, it really ticks me off if others can’t apologize when they messed up. I don’t like it when people beat around the bush and basically signal to me that they know they messed up but then try to restore the balance by finding fault in me rather than offering a straight apology. I will openly admit that it took me a while to learn this myself, no one likes to get over themselves, and apologizing can be difficult. But I make a point of doing it whenever it is called for, and I consider that one of my better qualities :)

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The Author

Masha Sedgwick ist ein persönlicher Fashion und Style Blog aus Berlin. Neben Mode schreibt die Fashionbloggerin auch häufig über Themegebiete rund um Beauty, Lifestyle und Reisen und gibt wertvolle Tipps, ob zum perfekten Make up, der täglichen Haarpflege, dem besten Hotel oder für den schönsten Städtetrip überall auf der Welt. Der Blog existiert bereits seit 2010 und dank der anspruchsvollen Bilder und persönlichen Texten gehört Masha Sedgwick mittlerweile zu den erfolgreichsten und reichweitestärksten Modeblogs in Deutschland, hat es auch zu internationaler Bekanntheit erreicht und wird regelmäßig im Print und Fernsehen gefeatured.

Masha Sedgwick is a personal fashion and style blog from Berlin. Besides fashion she also writes about beauty, lifestyle and travel and gives valuable tips, whether it's the perfect makeup, daily hair care or the best hotel. Masha Sedgwick runs her blog since 2010 and thanks to its high quality in text and image the blog Masha Sedgwick is now one of the most successful fashion blogs in Germany.

Маша Седжвик – автор личного блога, посвященного моде и стилю. В центре ее внимания не только модная одежда – она часто пишет на темы, связанные с красотой, образом жизни и путешествиями, освещает модные тенденции, а также дает ценные советы – например, как сделать идеальный макияж, как правильно ухаживать за волосами, как выбрать отель или куда поехать в отпуск. Блог Маши Седжвик существует с 2010 года. Благодаря интересным текстам и качественным фотографиям он стал одним из самых успешных блогов о моде в Германии и постепенно приобретает популярность за ее пределами.

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